I’m Shannon McGorry, and I’m a coach for you, the woman who is determined to reclaim her power, joy, and fulfillment after divorce.
I don’t know any woman who’s truly happy about getting a divorce. Whether it was your partner who announced the change in status, you who desired to cut ties, or a truly mutual decision, divorce is painful. I know it first hand. I remember vividly the moment when I acknowledged that my own marriage was over. We were in a therapist’s office, and it became abundantly clear, something in me strengthened, and I was able to see what had been there for some time; my marriage was over.
Out of respect for my family, including my two extraordinary daughters, I don’t share the details about that very personal divorce decision (and, by the way, you don’t owe anyone those details, either), but I can tell you that I recall seeing my now former-husband walking away holding a cup of Starbucks coffee. And it was in THAT moment that I started my journey back into my power. I didn’t recognize it at the time, but that first step was when I allowed myself to understand and acknowledge that my marriage was over.
It was so surreal... others were going on about their everyday activities... and I saw my reality crumbling before my eyes.
In the days and weeks that followed, I had a choice:
Sink into despair and try to cling to the past.
Accept my new reality and even begin to see it for all the opportunity it gave me to rediscover who I really am at my core.
I am a huge fan of Brené Brown. This quote of hers captures the choice we each have to make:
I chose the latter, and now I’m living a life that feels aligned to who I am at my core.
Of course, there are still some challenging days, but I feel confident in my ability to navigate life as I tap into my true desires and purpose. In short, I’ve rediscovered who I am at my best!
In my work as a divorce recovery coach, I help women just like you -- women who are facing the pain of divorce, and perhaps even the “new normal” of single parenthood -- reconnect with themselves and rebuild their lives, one courageous step at a time.
The process may feel daunting at first but you are NEVER alone.
My question for you in the wake of this relationship change is simple:
“What does this make possible?” For me, my divorce made possible the time, space, and ability to re-discover the passions and pursuits that were hidden deep in my heart. I learned to laugh spontaneously again. I embraced exercise and the energy it brings to my day. I initiated the constant quest for images of hearts with my daughters (honestly, we now see them everywhere and you’ll find hearts of all shapes and sizes throughout our home and our lives), I deepened my faith, and I have worked to truly know and love myself.
Professional Biography: Shannon McGorry is a divorce recovery coach and women’s empowerment speaker. Having lived firsthand through the pain of divorce, she now helps other women walk their own road of redefinition after the breakup of a major relationship. Certified as a Professional Coach through the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching and a graduate of I Heart Coaching, Shannon’s powerful coaching skills lead women toward lives of purpose, fulfillment, and joy! She is available for private coaching, workshops, and speaking engagements via her website, http://www.lovestrengthandgrace.com.